Try to use a Dev Module Board for your ESP32, with Programer Mode: esptool + CDC on (Upload Mode config in Tools). There might be a incompatibility between the specifications of your board and your computer. I had some issues running my Nano ESP32S3 in my mac, this was the only config I could use to ...

Hi!
I am not sure if this will help you, but I had issues initially with Arduino IDE and I got it stabilised by using the ESP32S3 Dev Module (mine is version S3), from the library esp32 .

When I moved to platform.io, I was choosing the wrong board and then I found one compatible with the dev module ...

I am having the same issue, but it only happens when using Platform IO + VSCODE, with Arduino IDE it gets more stable... I am using a mac
Are you also using these tools?

I will probably move on to use arduino-cli and see if that improves